"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." - Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." - Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

The world demands a lot from us

We're expected to be "A" students. Perfect parents. Supermodel slim. On top of the latest trends. We spend a third of our lives working, and most of us are underpaid. We're encouraged to spend the other two-thirds getting enough sleep, exercising, keeping up with current events, participating in extracurricular activities, eating healthy, taking care of our families and pets, doing homework, attending social events - and somehow squeeze in time "for ourselves." It's not enough that we do all of those things; we also have to be the best at them, or be judged by ourselves and others. And we absolutely can't admit that we're struggling, or ask for help.

With all of these unrealistic expectations, it's no wonder that we are more depressed and anxious than ever before.  At any point in time, 30% of adults and 20% of adolescents are dealing with a mental health condition, and countless others are having problems with work, parenting, relationships, school, or other important life situations.  Life makes us all loose in the joints and very shabby.

The good news

You don't have to be what the world wants you to be. You can and should flaunt convention if it moves you in the direction of the things that are truly important. You can be imperfect, complex, and messy because that’s what Real people are. We’re here to help you embrace your Realness and work toward living an authentic and meaningful life.

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Counseling services to help with what's really important

For Everyone:

  • Be more engaged in your life
  • Manage stress effectively
  • Heal from traumatic life experiences, like death, divorce, physical or mental illness, violence, and other painful experiences
  • Understand yourself better
  • Find solutions to problems
  • Cultivate acceptance

For Teens:

  • Manage schoolwork
  • Have supportive peer relationships
  • Develop healthy body image
  • Become independent

For Adults:

  • Foster meaningful relationships
  • Cope with life transitions
  • Feel more fulfilled in your work

For Couples and Families:

  • Navigate cohabitation, marriage, and parenthood
  • Communicate better

Therapy is great and everyone should do it

In case you’ve never been in therapy before, here’s how you do it:

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*Disclaimer: Therapy reflects the complexities of life. You won’t always feel better during or after a therapy session - in fact, sometimes you might feel worse - but you may come away with a new or more clear understanding of how you can live your life better. You don’t only have to focus on problems, either. Reflecting on and understanding improvements and strengths is also important to help reinforce all of the hard work you’re putting in.

We’re real people

Finding the right fit with your therapist is important, since successful therapy often requires you to be honest and vulnerable. Goodness of fit is not necessarily how similar or different you are to your therapist in terms of age, gender, culture, race, background, or life experiences (although these can be extremely important!). A good fit involves mutual respect and appreciation, agreement on the focus and goals of therapy, and a feeling that your therapist "gets it."

Our philosophy is that a dispassionate or overly-clinical therapist does not always help people feel respected or understood. We think the therapy magic often happens when your relationship with your therapist reflects what relationships with other humans are really like, and it’s also a good place to practice dealing with issues that are challenging in your relationships with others. We therefore aim to build real connections with our clients through warmth and radical genuineness.

 
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Gina Newton, LCSW

Therapist, Owner, Pineapple enthusiast

You might have noticed the pineapple motif in our logo and wondered what that has to do with therapy. I picked the pineapple because I’ve thought for a very long time now that pineapples are a sort of weird and wonderful thing. We live in a world that has no shortage of pain and ugliness, and it’s often easy to get weighed down by the seriousness of it all. For me, the pineapple - in all of its ridiculous, tasty complexity - is a reminder that life doesn’t have to be so serious that we can’t still open ourselves up to experiencing the wonder and beauty in even the most mundane things. As a symbol of welcome and hospitality, the pineapple also reflects my values of warmth and openness, which I want to embody in my practice and in the world. Not to mention there’s a metaphor here about how pineapples, like people, have parts that are sweet and parts that are painful, but that’s just low-hanging fruit.

Working with me, you can expect frequent metaphors and maybe a few dumb puns like that. In my approach I strive to hold the balance between hope and despair, seriousness and silliness, and accepting you as you are while encouraging you to be better.

Unfortunately I don’t have any current openings in my schedule for new clients, but I’m always happy to give recommendations and referrals to other providers so please feel free to reach out.


Megan Murray, LCSW

Therapist

Megan is trained as a school social worker and has recently begun working with Candor Counseling as a part-time therapist. She is currently available to see adult and adolescent clients on Thursday evenings and Saturday afternoons. Megan’s “official” bio is coming soon, but in the meantime you can check out her Psychology Today profile for more information about her practice and specialties. Megan is in network with Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, and United Healthcare. If you’d like to make an appointment with Megan, contact Gina for scheduling and initial set up, or email Megan directly with your questions about her and her approach.

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